Girl Talk: What is Sex?

Yes, we know the physical definition of sex and because of that, I’m sure you think as though that’s all it is. Well, my love, I’m sorry to inform you that that’s just one part of it, the fun side, the upside to it. Now I know when you were in elementary you were taught about opposites so I’m positive that you know if there is an upside then there is a downside. If there is a fun side there is a not so fun side. 

Basically, what I’m saying is there is a truth to sex that I hope you are ready for. Please take that as a friendly warning if you decide to keep reading. 

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Girl Talk: Dear Necole,

Dear Necole,

I write this letter to inform you that you are not alone. We deal with depression also, and to be honest, when you are a creative, depression tends to come with the territory. It’s not something that we speak about much and definitely not in the black community, but it’s real. 

It’s real but yet it’s ignored or mislabeled. It’s the reason why some turn to drugs to numb themselves or commit suicide. Unfortunately, a lot of us suffer in silence, not knowing how to talk about it or who would understand. But because of your courage to be vulnerable, we too can speak out and face it head-on. 

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Girl Talk: My Truth, When The Encourager Loses Her Encouragement

Once upon a time there was a girl that had big dreams, goals and aspirations. You couldn’t tell her that life wasn’t about to take off for her. Throughout her twenties, she just knew that if she kept a “can’t stop won’t stop” Diddy attitude at all times, she would have everything she ever dreamed of.

Then life happens and she had a baby, she struggled, she didn’t know if the lights would be on somedays. She would be in situations where she just hoped that she could make it home from work because the gas light was on and she had no money to purchase gas. Eventually, the relationship ended and the fighting between parents began. 

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Girl Talk: Insecurity in Men

It may not be the most popular topic but when you go through a few relationships and date a few men you realize that men have insecurities just like women. The only difference is that men’s insecurities are more hidden, buried, and tend to pop up when put in the right situation.

I remember back in college, I guy I was dating tend to have an issue with my jeans and what I wore. Well I’m bottom heavy and have a butt (all natural, no Dr. Miami needed) and even though I was decently dressed it takes layers to really hide your butt. Oh and, did I say that it was at the beginning of the semester and technically still summer. WHO IS LAYERING UP IN THE SUMMERTIME, WHO?

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Girl Talk: Are You Subscribed to Him Like You Are Subscribed To Netflix?

Dating can be fun and exciting at the beginning. You know when you just met each other, going on dates, having shallow conversations, and both of ya’ll representatives are working full time.

Well, eventually your representatives clock out and the real you stands up. The real him comes out and you see who he really is and not who he has pretended to be.

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Girl Talk: Is Your Head Space Overcrowded?

What is your head space filled with?

You may watch a lot of television shows, Netflix series, and movies. Or maybe you read books and enjoy hours of social media. Whatever it is that you enjoy to do, is it overcrowding your head space?

Have those past experiences gotten comfortable and moved in? Or those men that you entertain, have they moved in and now are taken up head space.

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Girl Talk: What do you bring to the table?

“Find out what you have to give before you say look at me” Sarah Jakes Roberts stated these words in her sermon titled “Unleashed” and I couldn’t help but pause and sit on those words. 

As women we tend to get into relationships with guys we like on day 1 because of his looks, his characteristics, what he can do for us, or maybe the reason is because when you look into his eyes you see a whole future with him.

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Girl Talk: Are You Loving Yourself? #LevelUp

Last week, singer Ciara posted a snippet of a sermon from John Gray and added the caption of #LevelUp. Lots of single women were in their feelings about it so Ciara followed up with this post. 

Honestly, there comes a time when you have to re-evaluate your life and decide if you want more or if you are ok with where you are in life. It doesn’t really matter which side of the spectrum you are on, there is only one answer and that is to love yourself.

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